What if you could say, "I don't have a problem in the world?"

What does it mean to be successful?

I found this video on Jeff Herring's blog, and thought I'd pass it on to you.

This is a video about Johnnie Tuitel , a motivational speaker with cerebral palsy, who was kicked off a US Airways flight because he was “too disabled to fly.” He was flying to speak at a convention, and missed his gig because of the U.S. Airways decision.

So many times we complain about not having everything we need to fulfill our dreams, or we blame others for our lack of success. Perhaps we need to really take a deeper look at ourselves, and realize that the only thing that stops us from success is ourselves.

 

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I like this course a lot. It's free, but more importantly, looks like it will provide a great support group. I'm looking forward to using it to help me market my blog, http://teachingthefuture.net

I've just finished Market Samurai's Challenge, and so this is a great follow-up. 

Take a look at it- you can learn from his marketing tactics as well.

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Struggling with Post-Adoption Depression

I read an interesting post about today about post-adoption depression.
One of the things that struck me was this statement:

Well, the foster care system has a long and arduous process but unlike
overseas adoption, your baby is with you DURING that process. I think
the biggest shock for me was that my Mother’s Instinct that I grew to
rely on with my two biological children didn’t kick in quite the same
with Izaiah.

I don’t know why but I have a feeling it was because I was a complete
stranger to this child when he was “delivered” to me. When you are
pregnant, you have 9 months to feel connected and get to “know” your
baby. This lack of confidence in knowing what he wanted when he cried
coupled with the internal desire to make his life better than the life
he knew before me was quite defeating and soon sent me into a
whirlwind of anxiety, frustration and depression. I was a good mom two
other times, what was wrong with me THIS time?

This is so true, not just for adoptive parents, but foster parents as
well.I think many adoptive and even foster parents underestimate how
you really need to work hard to bond with a new child. We personally
foster two little girls, and we have friends that are also involved in
foster care. We also have friends that have adopted.

Just the other day a friend of mine who is a foster mom commented on
how she is bothered by the fact that she can't seem to really feel
close with a newly arrived baby. I reminded her that there is
something to be said for knowing that there really is some special
sort of bond formed with a biological child.

It's not just about having had more time to get to know the child.
It's about recognizing that you also used to throw terrible tantrums
at that age (or so your mother tells you). It's about seeing a pouty
face and recognizing that your husband does exactly the same thing.

I'm not saying you can't bond with a child who is not your own-of
course you can. But it is rarely instantaneous. It takes time until
you learn how to recognize the special rhythms of this child, the
expressions, the desires; everything that makes that child who they
are.

As much as you may want to love them as your own, they are first their
biological mother and father's child. You will have to work on making
them your own as well.